When it comes to sexuality, you need to retrain yourself because if you don’t, you’ll end up with adolescent sex.
Teenagers learn about sex through pornography.
Today’s and yesterday’s. Unfortunately the reference remains the same, when in reality pornography is a show. If we recorded with a camera we would see a thunderous representation of porn.
I understand what you mean.
In general there is no connection with sensuality, with intimacy, that is to say an erotic sexuality with nuances. The sex that is practiced is summed up in initiation, nudity and denouement, and this is a very limited sexuality.
And a little boring?
The Spanish average for the process is 20 minutes. Preliminaries are nothing more than a way to get to intercourse, and this path laid out for many women bores us.
So what is it about?
To learn to have resources, to awaken the erotic part, to introduce breathing so that the energy moves beyond the genital part. Kisses and caresses are also sexuality, not everything has to lead to intercourse.
And do we need a partner to enjoy?
No, learning to appropriate our own pleasure is essential, and women have a huge journey to discover in sexuality. Female empowerment has to do with economic independence, but also emotional and sexual independence.
And the men?
They are still fascinated by porn and like to reproduce what they learn from it. Do you know what’s going on?
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That it is very difficult to find a good lover because we have not had this sexual education, so you have to learn to understand what your sexuality is like and take ownership of it. Women have a very different sexuality than men.
What do we have to discover?
What are our times and rhythms. We should not try to be like men who can have orgasms in three minutes. Sex toys are great but we don’t have to depend on them either; we must learn to eroticize our body and not go directly to the genitals.
explain to me how
The clitoris needs 20 minutes to be able to swell and therefore we need to learn to have a type of connection with our body in which eroticism is the protagonist.
Does the female body need time?
It is one of the great differences with man. When we get into shared intimacy, if you’re straight, you don’t have to depend on what they do to you, because if sex is being kissed, licked and penetrated, I understand that many women don’t want sex.
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Let’s call it masturbation or self-love, but you have to know your body and give yourself this pleasure, and masturbating is not massaging the clitoris.
Explain to me how to eroticize my body.
Incorporating eroticism into your life. If you are lying on the sofa watching a series you can caress your legs and hips. When you put cream on your body, let it not be a mechanical thing, let there be a connection with your body.
i understand
When you go to sleep touch your body a little, your breasts, place your hand on your pubis and take three breaths there and feel the connection with your vulva.
And that’s it.
Yes, look no further, incorporate this kind of touch into your daily routine until your anxiety-free body begs for more. In reality, it is the same thing that we have to do with the partner, gradually generating this connection.
So mobilize the hip.
Yes, put on music that activates your pelvic floor, percussion rhythms, African music, these types of movements make you able to lubricate. Introduce the scents, myrrh, jasmine, flowers, all these help to stimulate.
A bit of hedonism.
This lack of lubrication in menopausal women is easy to fix, you just have to keep the pelvic floor active in your day to day life.
For you and for you?
If you’re not used to being your best lover, at the very least there’s a little chemistry with someone, you’re hooked. It is important that we are very nourished by our eroticism so that we are selective. And when we’re in a relationship, going from zero to a hundred may work at first, but it doesn’t last.
There are women who withdraw from sex.
A woman who knows how to give herself pleasure – we are very capable of feeling it – does not withdraw from sex. A woman connected to her sexuality is more connected to life, she has a strength that does not consist of lipstick, heels or cleavage and that is independent of bodies and age.