So are you lying there and get the wildest oralservice on this side of the naughty Michelin stars. He knows what he’s doing. It is light and playful, when it should be, targeted, and precisely at other times. Everything is completely true.
But come, you can’t. You feel that you need to sign his mundarbejde with an orgasm.
You have performance anxiety.
While the man’s performance anxiety typically is all about having to present a combative erection, spins the woman’s care more often about having to provide an orgasm.
Both inhibits exactly the ability to get it, you have to achieve.
In the following, we focus on the woman’s orgasmedræbende anxiety of not getting orgasm.
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Typically this is a vicious and selvfødende circle, where she is afraid, that he seems, it takes a long time. She then begins to chase the orgasm, while she at the same time, fear that she can’t come.
Meanwhile, the head svirrer of these bekymringstanker, the disappearance of the orgasm further and further away from the body, which has been filled of the hormone cortisol, which we secrete when exposed to stress, explains sex therapist Gloria Brame.
– When one is concerned, is triggered and cortisol, which inhibit the good hjernekemikalier, which would otherwise be activated during sexual arousal. And even if you press all the right buttons, will this flee or freeze response, and prevent you from feeling the erotic sensations in the body, says Brame.
Sexperterne Jubii – women also have performance anxiety
What can you do about your performance anxiety?
Realize that performance anxiety is not only something that men experience. Although the jo is most evident in men, as sexual lust just fails to appear, many women with the same disturbances in the sexual system, where thoughts and emotions inhibits the excitement, explains sexunderviser Chris Rose.
It is very common, yes, some will even argue that it is the rule rather than the exception, that the woman gets a whiff of performance anxiety with a new partner.
the Head is boiling over with thoughts: ‘I’m delicious enough, what can he like, the smells I’, all sorts of thoughts, which culminates with the ultimate orgasmedræbertanke, when he makes a pass to the big game: I Wonder if I can have an orgasm?’
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So when you discover that you are in the bad triangle with you, your partner and your performance anxiety, you must direct your focus to your breath and breathe slowly and deeply.
It will fix up in the tensions and get you to focus on your sensations rather than your thoughts.
another useful remedy for your bekymringstanker is to set the pace heeeeelt down.
It is quite common to have a fixed sequence in the sexen, but it can be an advantage to be in the prelude in a long time, so liderligheden be built up, and you can follow what happens in the body.
In relaxation mode you are better to be present in the moment.
Although sexual excitement and sexual nervousness is in the family, there are also difference. For when you are sexual excited, you are also a little relaxed. But when you’re a little scared, you tense in relation to arousal, your breathing becomes shallow and strained, and you start to think too much forward.
Other bekymringstanker, which prevents the presence and accompanying orgasm, can be that you are afraid to get an sti or become pregnant. Talk with your partner about what you need to do at the safe-sex front, where a condom is often the solution.
Some women can’t get orgasm, because the head is filled with thoughts about, whether they are tasty enough, sexy enough, good enough. Well you think that your stomach is for dellet, your tits too small and it all hangs on the wrong way in that position, so is the orgasm far away.
Here you need to make peace with your body image. Realize that the mind is there, and set them to the side, instead of letting them run on repeat for the full strength.
It’s about to calm the emotions and mind and concentrate on sansningerne and about the tongue between her legs.
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