Toxic relationships are the order of the day, with abundant information on how to identify them, why they occur and how to get out of them. Broadly speaking, these are relationships in which one or both people suffer, in which one of the parties hurts the other or even mutually.
In them, situations of codependency, fear of loneliness, idealization of the other person can occur… They can also consist of abuse and mistreatment, whether physical or emotional. Whatever the particular characteristics of the toxic relationship, the common element in all of them is suffering. However, just because there is so much talk about toxic relationships does not mean that they predominate over healthy relationships.
Taking into account the pillar of suffering that governs toxic relationships, one would expect that the absence of suffering in the couple would be the unequivocal indication that it is a healthy relationship. However, we often have doubts about whether our bond with our partner is positive, if the relationship works as it should and if it has a long-term future.
Do I feel good in my relationship? Do my partner and I work together? Does our relationship have a future? Sometimes, love alone is not enough and it is necessary to focus on certain aspects of the relationship, in order to measure its quality and viability. It is not about subjecting the relationship to an exhaustive examination or questioning everything, but about knowing how to recognize certain parameters that confirm that we are on the right path in the relationship.
In this regard, there are a series of keys that will help us identify the success of a relationship, one that is healthy and shows signs of being able to function in the long term. From the Instagram profile of the portal specialized in psychology Psychology Today (@psych_today, with more than 680 thousand followers), they point out that “although there are no guarantees in love, successful long-term relationships tend to share these characteristics,” according to the psychologist. Gerry Heisler. These are five fundamental questions with which we can ensure that our relationship is healthy and that confirm its viability.
