Nothing human is alien to him.
I dive into the complexity of human nature, capable of torturing or creating vaccines.
What makes us unique?
The same thing that makes us different from artificial intelligence.
In other words that is…
That we are spiritual.
What does this consist of?
In front of the campfire, the flow of water or the stars at night, you ask yourself questions.
And we invent answers.
Language and thought are one. That is why it is important to teach children to express themselves well orally.
What else would you teach them?
That the most important thing is “you”.
The other, the one in front?
Why are you doing this interview with me?
For my readers to enjoy.
do you see You do it for a “you”. The psychologist or the doctor do the same: they act for a “you”. It matters the other, you.
Explain that to someone with depression…
Often the depressed person is not aware of his depression. Only that everything seems ugly, bad, horrible, adverse, he feels that the world is against him…
Is feeling it a sign of depression?
He feels alone, very alone. And may even attempt suicide. I’ll tell you something…
Say.
Helping another is the best way to help yourself.
Are there many depressed people here?
Spain is the country in the world that prescribes the most antidepressants, sleeping pills and anxiolytics.
what is happening to us
That we ask too much of life. We want constant happiness! And, obviously, that’s how any unforeseen setbacks tear us apart.
Not you?
To me? I am very surprised that the world works so well!
Lucky you.
Fix it, without going any further: my wife and I have been together for 45 years!
And the secret is…
Let the air flow! And mutual trust. Oh, and you don’t have to explain everything.
No?
No, because you have the right to private life.
Private life?
No, private life calls for the privacy of your data, and social life is what you display in the eyes of others.
Intimate life, what is it then?
Where is the boy I was? Do I regret anything? What happened between that cousin and me, or what do you think happened? What do I aspire to? What will I never explain…?
Oh! All this… is intimate life?
Yes. Your private life is what you don’t tell anyone… not even yourself.
Would you tell me something intimate, here?
OK. In a psychotherapy workshop, blindfolded, a hand caressed me. I felt that I was getting a little erotic. When I uncovered myself, I saw that I had been touched by… a man. I got up and left.
And I see he still remembers it.
Yes, just as my eldest son is telling me today that when he was a teenager I stole a ticket to a concert… I didn’t remember it and, on the other hand, it was shocking for him!
What would you give a child?
Ask yourself “what do I contribute?”. Because we all have a life purpose that goes beyond the money we earn.
Against school failure, what would you advise schools, parents and teachers?
No cell phones inside the school. And memorize And discipline, effort. And discerning what’s good from what’s bad: feeling guilty is all right, man.
What have you taught your children?
That you are born alone, live alone and die alone.
Well, yes, yes.
And that you have to be independent.
Many people are not.
Psychological or physical abuse by the other or others generates what we now call “learned helplessness”.
And you have to unlearn it, I understand.
Yes, to not be dependent on anything. Let’s learn to break with everything! We have to know!
I hope no one mistreats anyone.
We must educate ourselves and educate ourselves in empathy, to feel what the other person feels. The bully is not aware of the harm he causes.
Give me hints to cultivate empathy.
“I want to be your friend”, I say to people I know. And I cultivate that relationship, that’s how I make new friends. I want to be your friend!
Me too from you: write down my phone number.
Done! Do you know what the greatest individual responsibility is?
Which one, dear friend?
The use of your time.
I will spend some time calling you.
That you imagine it is already very good, friend. The human being is all imagination!
