Sex can be the most fun and transformational delicious, you as a human being can experience.
It can also be boring.
You may think that it is your partner’s fault, when he repeats the same posts in the same order at the same time every time. So you rather want to doze off in front of the tv.
But you are always at least two about sex, which means that your own role, your own efforts and setting is crucial for sex to be fun and challenging and daring, or whether it is more like Tipslørdag from a dreary and bitterly cold, nordengelsk province. 1-0 to him after a lot of futile groping and prusten.
The american couple and sex therapist Isadora Alman tells what you (and your partner) can do when boredom sets in.
Your girlfriend’s (and your) modus operandi has become so recognizable, that you can them in their sleep. First caresses, he you there, so pills he you here, in which he stimulates you a third place.
The only surprise is that he apparently does not notice that it does not turn on you and certainly not in the order.
Tell your partner that tonight you will be facing for the program. You choose some other actions, which he can also be inspired in the long term. Perhaps lists you a vibrator into the game, maybe you only talked to him on the vaginal lips and not at all on the breasts. Maybe you will be tied a little. Maybe you will in the higher the degree of control pace and direction and let him be the passenger.
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When you have been together for a long time, you will find the most effektivive sexløsninger. You know which buttons to press and when. Sex can be a practical performance, where the orgasm guaranteed in the least possible exertion.
Lovely, but also boring.
Start a conversation a day where you both have time and are relaxed, and the conflicts are not lurking just around the corner. Came with some ideas and suggestions that do not appear as orders and requirements, but as a new fun opportunities for play.
An effective way to break it is a little too effective sexmønster is to change the place of udfoldelserne. It puts the control on the break and forcing new ways forward.
Would you like to have sex in the open? Do you want to take a bath with me?
You can also just take the lead and start sexlegene in unfamiliar places. Your girlfriend will perhaps be surprised, but it’s also not the worst thing that can happen.
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While the first two kedsomhedssex situations most focused on, to not challenge each other, but just repeats the usual stuff, is this a little more serious: You’re bored in bed, because you don’t get what you need.
He licks you, do not (long) enough. He will not try anal sex. You turn on the strange men. He takes you not as a Christian Grey on steroids.
Find books, movies, articles about it, you need now. Ask him to read/see it, possibly together. Tell why it switches. I wonder if you can jointly find solutions.
And the solutions are, among others, to share fantasies. That in itself is tremendously exciting to talk about, and can maybe develop a bit on the ideas, while In have sex. Some of these fantasies, then, can one possibly try to live out. Perhaps as a kind of role playing, maybe IRL with a foreign person, if it now is the way the fantasies bring you down.
the Above is easier written than done, for sex is the most vulnerable space we have. This means that all the amendments may seem as hurtful criticism and not as ideas for shared fun play.
In the same way you can feel rejected and hurt, if your partner does not think about your thoughts. So be cautious, take small steps and show lots of respect.
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