Joana Sanz wanted to deny the rumors about her separation from Dani Alves once he was released from prison. The Canarian model has shared a photograph of her clasped hands on Instagram. She even perfectly sees the tattoo they got together “1 1 = 1.” In this way, the model demonstrates her unconditional love and fidelity towards him.
Social media has caught fire after this controversial image. Some people are asking brands to stop hiring Joana Sanz, since they cannot understand how she can be with the former soccer player after being convicted of raping a woman.
It is very difficult to analyze a couple from the outside and even more so without knowing them. Apparently, many relationships seem idyllic and suddenly break down. This also happens the other way around. There is a very large distance between a couple’s intimacy and external appearance.
To understand more about the relationship between Joana Sanz and Dani Alves, we have spoken with two psychologists: Gemma Ventura and Marta Ramo. Both have graduated in psychology from the Ramon Llull University and are members of the Official College of Psychology of Catalonia.
The question most of us ask ourselves is how the model could want to be with the Brazilian after all. Ventura believes that “their relationship was interrupted by Alves’ sudden imprisonment. The relationship was probably put on standby. “I don’t think there was a breakup and it is necessary to resolve what was left unspoken,” she maintains.
He also explains that a breakup is a long process and in his case that process could not occur due to the situation. “Psychologically speaking, Joana Sanz never broke up with Alves,” adds Ventura. On the other hand, Ramo believes that the model is experiencing “a combination of emotional factors that lead her to want to be with him despite the sentence.”
Not even they know if they will be together in the future or not, but anything is possible. “Whether it works or not is going to depend on them and how they manage it. We must keep in mind that there is forgiveness and repentance. For me it makes more sense for them to be together again than to be separated,” says Ventura.
Ramo feels much the same: “It is possible that the relationship can work in the future if both partners are willing to work on their relationship and address the underlying problems.” “It is clear that we will have to wait to see if they are able to reformulate the relationship they had,” he adds.
We do not know if the model and the former soccer player have a toxic relationship with emotional dependence. However, Ventura comments that “all relationships of any type have a dependency that does not necessarily have to be negative or pathological.”
“If Joana Sanz continues with him without recognizing the seriousness of her actions, it could indicate a toxic relationship in which she may be acting as a rescuer or in a state of denial,” Ramo clarifies. It should be noted that “it is very difficult to know what role each person plays in the relationship and if there is an unbalanced power dynamic.”
It has always been said that love blinds. Ventura does not believe that is the case for both. On the other hand, Ramo confesses that it may be applicable in this case because Joana Sanz “may be experiencing a decrease in the ability to see reality clearly due to her feelings for Dani Alves.”
“It is true that people find it difficult to separate. Furthermore, when we are in love we idealize the other person and we do not see their defects,” he continues.
The decision to be together again is quite a challenge. The media impact can make it difficult for them to rebuild trust and strengthen the relationship. However, how can they overcome it? Ventura affirms that “with a lot of communication and dialogue” Above all it is essential to “try to be honest with each other.”
Ramo adds that “it will be crucial that they recognize the pain caused, assume responsibility for their actions and commit to a process of personal and relational growth.”
We must keep in mind that people change over time and that “we have to adapt the relationship to these changes,” highlights Ventura. He even expresses that “despite Alves’ crime, he also deserves to be loved.” Are second chances fair? Everyone has their opinion. Some will be in favor and others will be against. Ramo recommends that one’s “own emotional health and personal safety” should be prioritized.
Anyone who wants to improve their relationship should seek professional help and go to therapy. “It can provide a safe, unbiased space to explore relationship dynamics, identify dysfunctional behavior patterns, and work together toward a healthier, more satisfying relationship,” says Ramo.
This article was originally published on RAC1.
