God forbid, what a fuss.
I’ve only written one book.
The men of my life .
They are the men with whom Sonia, the protagonist, a girl in her twenties, sleeps.
Without naming them: list them.
I didn’t want to romanticize dating. I narrate bare, raw, objective facts.
How many men parade there?
Forty-eight men. And two women.
More than sex, they are judicial certificates.
Like legal documents.
Are you a lawyer?
Yes, and I advise humanitarian reception and international asylum organizations for political and economic migrants.
She is Swedish, and speaks good Spanish.
The mother is from Barcelona. As a young girl she worked at a campsite, fell in love with a Danish boy and they went to Sweden.
where you were born Do you know Spain?
We used to come to Catalonia in the summers.
Tell me about a childhood print.
With the hand of my grandfather, a Sephardi from Thessaloniki exiled here by the Nazis, we used to go to the kiosk to buy La Vanguardia.
What did you want to be when you grew up?
He dreamed of improving the world, saving it from injustice. And today I dedicate myself to defending people’s human rights.
But it narrates personal relationships…
I don’t get into bed with someone who doesn’t respect human rights. Not with someone who doesn’t read. No books, no sex.
“The Swedes”, the Spanish used to say…
Repressed Spaniards, free Swedes.
Are Swedish women still free today?
Swedish women are more left-handed, and men more and more right-handed.
Does this affect relationships?
Yes. Every day there are more women without a partner. It happens all over the West… and for some reason you are!
Why must it be, Sofia?
As women, we realize that what happens in a heterosexual couple displeases us.
And what happens in the heterosexual couple?
That the relationship is unequal: the man abuses the woman, mistreats her.
Give an example.
A woman says “yes” to getting into bed with a man… but that’s not saying “yes to everything”!
What do you mean by “everything”?
If you don’t feel like sex at the last minute. Or he doesn’t like a sexual practice.
And the man does not respect it?
Often. Or she is silent, so as not to disturb. And the truth is that he doesn’t like that!
What’s wrong with the relationship?
The conversation about sex, which is the most important conversation, fails! The heterosexual couple still lacks a clear language, a precise and unmistakable code.
It seems like a lie, at this point.
But it is so. We should learn from queer couples: in this case the codes are crystal clear and obeyed by both parties.
Well, let’s learn from it.
But in the meantime, and just in case, many women shun the heterosexual partner.
Pity.
A statistic reveals that there is much more and better female orgasm in lesbian couples than in heterosexual couples.
What would you say to straight men?
Listen to the woman instead of mentally competing with other men, supposed and imaginary sex athletes.
I take note, I take note.
The sphere of the heterosexual couple is still insecure for the woman, who blames herself too much for this or that.
Sure, sure, but know that many men… also blame themselves.
Less, less. After casual sex, he is validated by male and she is invalidated by meuca. When a heterosexual video is leaked, what do we say about him and what about her?
You just said it. It’s true.
And I will tell you more about the female disadvantage.
Say.
If a woman goes on a first sexual date with a man… she almost always informs a friend beforehand where she will be.
But for…
Yes. And isn’t that man fearless?
No. He’s right. What is her character after by getting into bed with 48 men?
Orgasm, company, love… This combined in variable doses, depending on the day.
And getting into bed with both women?
The same… but much safer and calmer. And it’s so clear… that in the end it scares her… and she ends up with another man.
And you are like your character?
I’m bisexual A person is sexually attracted to me for something. Something that is not his genre. Bisexuals… we are invisible.
Yes? And why aren’t they shown more?
Because they always tell you that you’re still looking for yourself, that you don’t know what you are yet… Run, run! It’s enough! Of course I know perfectly well what I am: I’m bisexual!
