To learn throughout life. But sometimes you wish you had known some of the important things you have learned something before.

If only you could write a letter to his younger I and parts out of some of the most expensive lessons you have learned through life. It is thought the 29-year-old Ted Gonder from Chicago, Illinois, who is the father of three small children.

He knew, of course, that his words will never reach his own, childless I, but he wrote the letter anyway and put it on Facebook, so other future fathers may be able to use it for something.

the ad, which he shared along with a picture, where he holds his youngest child on a beach has gone viral on social media, where more than 57.000 shared it.

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Here, he shares five of the most important things that he wished he had known five years earlier.

‘She carried the baby INSIDE in the stomach in nine months. So you carry the baby ON your stomach for nine months every time, you get the chance. It not only helps her to recover, but also makes that you can attach yourself to the baby more than you can imagine’, is the first ‘advice’ on Ted Gonders list.

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‘She is breastfeeding, and even if it is beautiful for her, it’s also exhausting. So you change every SINGLE diaper, you can come to. From diaper number one and above. You get quickly over klamheden. AND you avoid inequality and contempt in the relationship; in fact, when all your wife’s friends complain about how absent their men is, will your wife boast about you’, continues Ted Gonder in its update.

The 29-year-old father of three calls, in addition to all expectant fathers to make decaffeinated coffee to their wives each and every morning, because she most likely are very tired and need something refreshing. And then he will like to remind you that some women can have some selvværdsproblemer after a pregnancy.

‘Remember her that she is beautiful and help her to see it in the moments when she feels most self-critical about his body’, writes Ted Gonder.

See the whole of the 29-year-Facebook-update here: