Do you talk to your dead?
Yes, with my mother, with my teacher Pepe Estruch, with Agustí Villaronga, with Almudena Grandes, with people I love and continue to have close to me. I don’t believe in God, but the strength of the people who loved you remains: they help you decide, they are there to give you a hand.
He has chosen to live with Eduardo.
He has made me a happy wife, I love taking care of my dog ??because he takes care of me, he is a lot of fun and he has put order in my life: he forces me to get up early to go for a great walk. It took me out of the house and made me change my priorities.
What priorities?
If I don’t have any plans at night, I don’t care, I stay with my sweet and friendly Eduardo. The joy that comes over him when I get home cannot be compared to anything.
Has he discovered another way of love?
In love the most important thing is to be taken care of and taken care of, and with him I can do that every day of my life and that makes me feel very good.
He had a crowded childhood.
Yes, we are eight brothers; a lot of noise, revelry and friendship, but there was no personal space for such a creature. We lived in a very small house. I think that this has made me live alone, that I love silence and that I don’t like coexistence, because until I was 22 I lived surrounded by people.
What do you remember from your childhood?
A phrase from my mother: “No matter what happens, the fridge is always full”. Come home and have something to eat, that’s a home: you survive and host.
Middle class family?
low average My father was an accountant in a workshop and my mother worked in a cafe, from her I learned to make decisions and that freedom I had. He decided to separate in the 1960s, which was really rare, and it became a plague on the family. This marked us all: never be where you don’t want to be.
And his father?
I didn’t know him long, he died when I was 18 and they split up when I was seven.
What made him so free?
Making decisions for myself and being very aware that opting for something is giving up something else. The greatest act of freedom is being able to choose, so even if I have a profession that binds me a lot, I feel free.
Did she feel alone despite her choice?
I don’t have problems with solitude, it’s my territory, where I feel most at ease. When I’m with a lot of people I get stuck, not being able to have time for myself I take it badly. Being alone at home I am very happy, and traveling alone or going to the cinema or having lunch alone… I like it.
What did it cost you to learn?
To say no When you realize that saying no with respect and care does not offend anyone, it is a liberation.
Being constantly in the shoes of others, what does it do to someone?
It makes you realize that most of the flaws you see in others are yours too. It makes you more tolerant, more understanding, and makes you wonder why people do what they do, which we almost never do.
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It has made me more supportive, to look inside and question myself. You learn a lot by interpreting when you do it thoroughly. I have true devotion to what I do. I feel that I have a social task, I want to help people with what I do.
What things matter in life?
There are a lot of people who are unhappy inside, not because of financial or relationship issues, they just haven’t figured out what makes them happy. My teacher used to say that all people have a talent and exercising it will make you happy. But this is not all.
Are there more?
I think that the simplest, closest and most tangible things we overlook and are often the ones that bring us the most joy. For me, a good conversation with friends gives me happiness for months, more than the most exotic trip.
What do you value?
Generosity, getting rid of selfishness, letting go… Besides, everything comes and goes, so share what you have. And know how to enjoy, not to overlook that everyday life is extraordinary. Today, with this splendid day, it feels good to have a beer in the sun.
What scares you about the future?
Losing the illusion, but I have never lost it. I get excited with a piece of bread and try to live with my eyes open; I’m too girly for that, somehow, if I lose the girl, where do I go?
Is there anything you want to explain that I haven’t said yet?
I want to direct again, write. I would love to go to New York to study screenwriting. It doesn’t matter if I’m 70, I have no problem, everything in its time. I would love to go to the Basque Culinary Center for a year to study cooking there. There are so many things that catch my attention!
