The habit of having been part of a relationship for a long time, the pressure of the environment that seems to see being single as a failure or simply boredom for wanting something else, a life partner. They are some of the most common reasons that distress people with a single life. A situation that is sometimes treated in psychologists’ offices, since it can considerably affect self-esteem.
But why is singleness so frowned upon? The need to find a partner, the always misnamed “better half”, to enjoy a complete and happy life is nothing more than a social construction. An idea erroneously associated with what is considered a successful life, something reinforced by other conditions, such as fiction. However, the reality is that being single is an extraordinary opportunity for self-knowledge.
Commonly, the terms single and single tend to be considered as having a shared meaning, but this is not the case. A single person does not mean that she is alone, since she has an environment of family and friends that cover her social needs. With them you can share strong bonds and, most importantly, positive ones. Since many people tend to relate to others who don’t really fulfill them, or with whom they even live toxic relationships, for fear of being single.
However, living without a partner can bring great benefits to the person. First of all, it will be necessary to get rid of that social construction of the need to have one. But, once this is achieved, it will be possible to identify the positive aspects and enjoy them.
Single people have the opportunity to reconnect with themselves, a unique opportunity for personal and emotional development. It is at this stage of life when you can do a true introspection, since time alone favors reflection and self-knowledge.
When you are part of a relationship it is easy to repeat the same routines and behaviors, that is, to accommodate. On the other hand, being single allows greater flexibility and freedom in this regard. As well as the possibility of exploring new things and moving away from the comfort zone. Feeling more independent, enjoying the company of oneself, in this way it is possible to increase self-esteem and the feeling of well-being.
The moment a person manages to feel comfortable with himself as the only company is when he can make better decisions that are in line with his interests. Especially when it comes to deciding who you want to share your precious time with or not. Not everyone will do.
