The reasons can be many. There are certain lines that should not be crossed in a relationship, but sometimes the reality is that the flame simply goes out. Among many other situations. What is clear is that, regardless of the cause, each person reacts differently after a breakup, and it is not always in the best possible way. After all, it is one of the most painful experiences that sometimes has no choice but to face. So it is important to know how to deal with it.
When a love breakup happens, the passage of time is a key factor for the wound to “end up healing,” explains psychologist Rosa Armas. People have to deal with a stage of grief, which is usually made up of different phases and which, on certain occasions, especially in the case of women, can occur even during the last stages of the relationship. Be that as it may, there are some behaviors that will be favorable after a breakup. While others should be avoided at all costs.
It is necessary to force yourself to take certain steps in favor of this, as Rosa Armas advises. Among the most recommended: staying busy, dedicating time to yourself and “pampering yourself.” Enjoying activities and hobbies that are satisfying will restore your enthusiasm.
It is also essential to allow yourself to be helped by friends and family, sharing moments with them and taking them as a point of support. But the psychologist also highlights the importance of enjoying yourself.
Once those behaviors and behaviors that will be favorable after a breakup have been clarified, it is time to identify those that should be avoided. One of them has to do with neglecting yourself, since you have to do the opposite, that is, work on your own self-esteem and dedicate time to yourself. “Not neglecting your physical appearance and seeing yourself well helps a lot in this task,” explains the psychologist.
Another piece of advice has to do with not looking for blame or trying to determine who is responsible for what happened, since this can cause one to end up blaming oneself or feeling anger towards the other person. In any case, nothing worthwhile considering that it is a link “that no longer exists.”
Although the specialist clarifies that this will depend on each couple and that it can occur in “few” situations, her recommendation is to avoid becoming friends. “That’s painful too,” she notes. And it could delay or hinder the process of getting over the breakup.
