Parenthood is a challenge on a personal and individual level. Understanding why the baby cries, putting up with sleepless nights and the daytime fatigue that these entail, changing diapers, cleaning regurgitation, juggling for conciliation, educating the child… All of this also adds a significant burden to the couple’s relationship.
You both see yourself monopolized by the care and attention of the little ones, inevitably neglecting your own needs and also the bond between you. Lack of quality time, arguments, strains and reproaches often aggravated by your saturation and tiredness, can take a toll on the love you feel for each other.
So that paternity does not take its toll on the relationship, you have to pamper it and water it so that it prospers, pay attention to what we say and how we say it and find moments to enjoy together outside of obligations. Let’s see some tips that will make everything easier.
Empathy and patience will be the star ingredients for your family’s recipe to be a success. Keep in mind that just as you feel overwhelmed, overwhelmed and stressed, so does your partner. Put yourself in their place, be benevolent and try not to judge or criticize the other, but to speak to each other with love and understanding.
Closely related to the previous point, you should take care of your communication. This must be open, fluid and based on trust, validating what the other says and feels. Sharing your emotions, worries and burdens will help you to support each other and strengthen your bond.
Keep in mind that time flies and before you know it your baby will be a fledgling youngster. Savor and enjoy every present moment, from preparing the bottle to bathing the little one, going through helping him with homework or reading him a story at night. The more activities you do together as a family, the more memories and moments together you will collect so that your relationship is also enriched.
It is easy for the chaos and the frenetic pace of the routine to catch you. So that the tasks do not overwhelm you or there are reproaches for who does what, take a moment to sit down and organize each one of them. Who is in charge of doing the shopping, who will make dinner, who is more adept at doing the laundry… This way you will reduce a frequent reason for arguments.
It is imperative that you seek quality moments together to pamper and take care of each other. It can be a special plan like going out for a night while someone you trust looks after the kids, or something as simple as watching a movie together when the little ones are already asleep. Remember that the small details are what make the difference and it is important that you are well in order to ensure maximum well-being for the children.
