Life is always going to be full of ups and downs and moments of uncertainty, however, the attitude with which these are faced is what gives rise to the difference between optimistic people and pessimistic people. Although science recommends being part of the first group. A study carried out by Harvard University affirms that those with a more positive point of view on life live longer.
Optimists tend to view failures as opportunities to grow and improve, have healthy self-esteem, and know how to motivate themselves to pursue their ambitions and goals. It is not about remaining isolated from reality, on the contrary, they are realistic and sincere with themselves. All this combined brings them psychological and physical benefits, so it is not surprising that it is an attitude highly valued by many. But can you learn to be optimistic?
Psychologist Sara Montejano describes pessimistic people as those who habitually focus on the negative side of things. They have low self-esteem and stress tolerance, as well as being excessively critical. That someone is pessimistic can be due to various reasons, from a genetic basis to environmental or learning factors. In any case, negativity turns these individuals into people with a greater propensity to suffer from anxiety or depression. Difficulties can even be found when it comes to social relationships and to function in the workplace.
However, the specialist affirms that it is possible to leave this trend behind and, through a series of techniques, to get closer to an optimistic point of view. One of the main changes she recommends making is to surround yourself with positive people. “People with negativity tendencies often surround themselves with other people who also have a pessimistic attitude toward life,” she explains. Therefore it is positive to spend time with an environment that offers support and encouragement, instead of reinforcing a discouraging attitude.
He also advises becoming more grateful. That is, not focus on the bad and give the importance that the good aspects of life deserve. All those things for which one should feel lucky and grateful. And, of course, be compassionate with yourself. Pessimistic people tend to be excessively critical of themselves. This leads them to engage in toxic behaviors. You have to treat yourself like a good friend, says Sara Montejano.
And, last but not least, value the achievements made. It is necessary to set goals that are realistic and achievable and celebrate all those small steps that are progressing on the way to their achievement. Sometimes one focuses only on what has failed, without taking into account everything that has been achieved so far.
