The first date, surprisingly, went wonderfully. That was followed by many more, as well as conversations on instant messaging applications and perhaps even an exchange on social networks. A daily contact in which everything seemed to go smoothly. Until, one day, without warning, that person disappears from the face of the earth. Without even an explanation or a reason. She simply disappears. That is ‘ghosting’, a term from English that could be defined as “disappearing like a ghost.” A relatively common practice during the initial stages of a relationship.
The reasons behind this behavior are varied, but it is worth focusing on the consequences it has on the victim. These people usually suffer a feeling of guilt, thinking that they have done something wrong that justifies such behavior. Furthermore, they may see their self-esteem diminished, feeling humiliated, or even end up becoming obsessed with finding out the reason for this disappearance. If you suffer from a case of ghosting, it is best to stop, take a deep breath and act in a very specific way.
An unexpected rejection of this type can cause the victim an “enormous state of confusion and anguish,” warns psychologist Natalia Menéndez Martínez. An experience that will not be easy to deal with, but that must be managed in the healthiest and most beneficial way for oneself.
