Motherhood and fatherhood is not an exact science. Children are not born with an instruction manual under their arms that helps their parents educate and guide them, but each person parenting in a particular way. And the growth of children will largely depend on this, how their mentality is formed and what values ??they acquire.
However, although each family is a world and each parenting is unique and personal, the truth is that there are certain types into which parenting styles can be divided. In 1966, psychologist Diana Blumberg Baumrind proposed the existence of three types of parenting styles: authoritarian, permissive and democratic. Later, in 1983, psychologists Eleanor Maccoby and John Martin reformulated the previous proposal, adding a fourth parenting style, neglectful.
Each of these four parenting styles has common characteristics, which will determine the relationship between parents and children, as well as the behavior and personality of the children.
These are very demanding, severe and inflexible parents with respect to their children, who exercise tight control over the children’s behavior. In this style of parenting, rules, authority, discipline and obedience imposed through punishments prevail. Furthermore, in this style of parenting there is usually a lack of affection.
As a result, children develop low self-esteem, are irritable, unhappy, fearful and more prone to stress. Likewise, it is common for adolescents to rebel, with behavioral problems, self-control and even aggression.
In this style of parenting, affection and the absence of limits and rules prevail, these being very few and flexible. Parents do not impose the consequences of their actions on their children and are undemanding with them, usually giving in to their whims.
Given this upbringing, children grow up developing impulsive behaviors, they tend to be capricious, with low tolerance for frustration and effort. They are more immature, aggressive and selfish children.
It is characterized by a prevalence of dialogue, finding the balance between rules and permission. Children have clear rules and are aware of the consequences of their actions, but they also have independence and flexibility. These parents listen to and support their children, who grow up developing good emotional intelligence.
In this way, children grow up with high self-esteem and confidence, they are more positive, confident children who know how to relate to others in a positive way, as well as how to manage and express their emotions.
In this case, the parents are barely involved in raising the children and do so erratically. They do not properly attend to the needs of the children, who feel helpless. Furthermore, although they do not impose rules, they can exercise excessive control over children or completely ignore them.
Children grow up with insecurities, fear, sadness and a feeling of abandonment, developing long-term self-esteem, confidence and behavioral problems.