A submissive person is one who tends to subordinate himself to others. They flee from conflict and put other people’s needs before their own in order to please the other. This type of personality results in a loss of well-being for those who present it, since they renounce their own desires, wills and preferences just to please other people.
They may even endure abuse or humiliation for the purpose of doing something for someone. “Submissives are always in search of acceptance and love, and this can lead these people to give up pleasant experiences,” says psychologist Francisco Hidalgo, on the Avannza Psicoluciones blog. In this regard, he adds that “the lack of defense of their rights and needs makes it very difficult for submissive people to change and they are usually trapped in a situation of subordination.”
To recognize if you are a submissive person, in the aforementioned blog Hidalgo compiles a series of common characteristics of this type of personality. As well as a series of guidelines to end the pattern of submission.
The first step is to identify the attitude of submission. “You must realize that you are disrespecting yourself and that you are not protecting your needs,” notes Francisco Hidalgo. To remedy this circumstance, he advises defending your rights and needs, practicing saying ‘no’ without feeling guilty.
She also recommends finding your own balanced voice, which will help you highlight your personality and feel more confident. In this regard, speaking more, leaving fear behind and expressing your opinion is essential. Also work on your confidence, making decisions for yourself.
Practicing positivity is another key, avoiding negative thoughts. And maintain an upright and firm posture to command respect and feel more secure. On the other hand, it is advisable to avoid toxic people and not allow anyone to take advantage of you or manipulate you. Finally, he recommends seeking professional help if necessary, going to a psychologist to help you trust yourself.
