The philosopher Paula Ducay, on relationships that never happen: "Sometimes you have to let go"

This past Monday, February 26, Paula Ducay visited the Cadena SER program Hora 25, hosted by journalist Aimar Bretos. The philosopher and co-creator of the podcast about love and philosophy called Punzadas stopped by the microphones of the network’s evening news program to talk about her new book, La ternura, from the Alta Marea publishing house.

During the interview, the presenter and the guest chatted about everyday life and how there were moments that marked you forever, such as, for example, the different relationships that can arise throughout our lives. On this topic, the philosopher spoke in her new book, where she explained the correct way to deal with those relationships that have no future.

”There is one thing that you explain in the book, page 96, which is the fact that there are relationships that clearly evolve and that go beyond what was expected, and that even in a very short time; and relationships that can be much longer lasting, even previous, that remain boxed in some canons, and that cannot, let’s say, overcome that mold,” the presenter commented.

”Yes, totally. In fact, I thought, while I was writing the book, that sometimes we tend to think that relationships that don’t get started or that don’t get updated seem to leave no trace. A bit like what hasn’t started, what doesn’t burn, doesn’t happen. And sometimes I think that in life it’s just the opposite,” the writer asserted.

And as Paula Ducay explained, those thorns that remain stuck from relationships that never evolved can become much more painful than stories that you have been able to live intensely.

”And why are there people with whom we never manage to formalize that bond?” asked Aimar Bretos. ”Sometimes you can’t and nothing happens. In other words, you may like a person you can’t be with and you have to find ways to maintain that bond if that’s what you want. But sometimes you have to say goodbye. And that’s pretty fucked up. I, who have my own experiences and those of friends, and it is a bit of inspiration, an amalgamation of things. I don’t know, I think it has happened to everyone at some point,” the philosopher concluded.