You know that one of the most important traits of a good lover is the willingness and the ability to be notice on the partners ‘ needs. You need to be responsive and caring opposite sengepartnerens desires.

But you should not forget your own needs, you must not drown in my boyfriends.

Researchers have now examined how it can have negative consequences, if you focus too much on the partner’s sexual needs.

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122 couples kept a journal for 21 days. Here, they describe their sexual experiences in relation to where the focus was during sex. At the same time, stated the participants how satisfied they were with sex and marriage.

the Researchers operate with two concepts in this context: Responsiveness to the partner’s needs, sexual sense of community (high sexual communal strength) and the unconditional focus on the partner’s needs while neglecting their own, (high unmitigated sexual communion).

When you have a sexual sense of community, you are more inclined to have sex, even if you’re not totally in the mood, you’re open to partner’s preferences, willing to learn about them and to share its own, and you go up in that both the partners are mutually responsive.

Studies show that people who are gf with the above-mentioned type, often are more satisfied with sex and cohabitation. And it is the also even.

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In the study, did the participants, where agree they were in statements such as ‘during sex I focused on my partner’s needs’, ‘during sex, I did things to meet my partner’s needs without expecting that she/he repay it’, ‘it was a high priority for me to meet my partner’s needs during sex’. Have to agree here, have great sexual sense of community.

to find out whether the participants had the single-minded focus on the partner’s desires, which override their own, they had to specify how agreed they were in statements such as: “During sex I focused only on my partner’s needs’, ‘during sex priority I my partner’s needs over my own’, ‘during sex, it was impossible for me to satisfy my own needs, if they came in conflict with my partners.

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And what the researchers found out?

All with the way.

This and other studies show that responsiveness to her desires is essential for a good sex – life together. But it can be too much.

Dagbogsanalyserne showed that on the days when you were motivated to respond on my bf’s sexual needs, were more satisfied with sex and cohabitation.

the Analyses also showed that when one was aware of her boyfriend’s signals, felt frequently more connected and tagged at the same time, more lust from her boyfriend, which, in turn, increased their satisfaction.

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in turn, showed the analyses, there were negative consequences of that uniquely focus on my boyfriends sexbehov and forget its own.

They were, paradoxically, more attention to his negative feelings during sex, such as boredom and lack of concentration, which hung together with a feeling of distance and less satisfaction with sexoplevelsen.

The type of tagged more the negative sides of sexoplevelsen, and the researchers suggest that they also like to have problems with self-esteem and therefore focus too much on the boyfriend in an attempt to feel valued.

And even though the person is a partner not outright suffering from it, experiencing he/she is not the same positive effects, as when both partners have great sexual sense of community, where they do not forget their own needs.

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