The writer Sylvia de Béjar, author of best-selling hits such as Your sex is yours, publishes a new informative book on how women can face maturity without fear and without trauma, a stage of life that the expert in Neruolinguistic Programming and certified professional in Sex Coach affirms that it should not have the bad reputation it has.
“Because, whatever they say, hormones are not to blame for everything that happens to us after the age of 45,” reflects Sylvia de Béjar, who creates a practical guide to fully enjoy maturity. Vivo reproduces a part of it below. from the introductory chapter of Your Change is Yours (Planet).
“There’s no denying it. There are many women—too many!—who are given a certain respect, if not fear, by burning years after 45, inevitably approaching the milestone of 50, seeing ourselves surpass it and, with no other option, continue tearing pages from the calendar… And, of course, let’s not forget that indigestible icing on the cake—that unappealable proof that time has flown—that usually means entering menopause.
We could live it all without so much prejudice, even congratulating ourselves for having come this far and, why not?, enjoying the memory of what we have experienced, of our present – ??the only thing we really have – and of what we have left to live. . But what’s up! Who more, who less reaches maturity perceiving it as the beginning of the end.
It is not surprising, because…
What can I explain to you that is good about adding years? Apparently, everything is losses. It’s time to say goodbye to energy, physical agility, beauty, visibility, social respect, fertility, health, sexuality… And if we talk about the much-maligned menopause, alert, they are coming! curves! What if hot flashes, what if insomnia, what if emotional ups and downs, what if memory loss, what if weight gain, what if urinary incontinence, what if vulvovaginal dryness, what if lack of libido… and I could go on!
As you see, nothing good under the sun. They are all negative messages.
Thus, many of us wait for this stage or experience it, when it is our turn, with fear, insecurity, anguish…
However, what a nonsense! Because, even if it is true that the passage of time forces us to face new challenges, it is also true that our mental limitations are – all those stereotyped, sexist, ageist, fearful and, above all, little beliefs. informed—the ones that make us predict everything is black, without it necessarily being so!
As for climacteric hormonal disorders and their possible symptoms, not all of us suffer from them and, if we do suffer from some, we do not necessarily do so to an extreme degree or live with so much shock; In fact, almost always, there are remedies, there are some.
In short, how tiresome the dominant narrative is!
Aren’t you tired of saying enough! of so much negativity?
What if we talk about the good? Because, although it may seem like a lie, there is. I already believe there is!
You see, what they don’t usually tell us is that…
We are entering the second part of our lives!
And if we understand what is really happening to us and are proactive, we will win, not lose. It may not seem like it at first – it’s normal – but if you enter without hesitation, trusting, in what at times can seem like a terrain of quicksand, you will discover that this challenge has a reward, because…
Your time has come.
It is likely that almost your entire existence has been lived according to the rules, adapting to the demands of your environment and, basically, by and for others, especially if you have had a partner and children.
Well then…
It’s time to stop procrastinating.
You may have always done it.
Procrastinate.
Everything else was ahead.
But not anymore.
It’s your turn.
Now it’s your turn”