It can happen to anyone and at any time. Even the children. Impostor syndrome is a fairly common phenomenon; in fact, studies on the subject consider that 70% of the population could have suffered from it at some point in their lives. People who manifest this syndrome feel insufficient and cannot assume their success, often attributing it to external factors, such as simple luck. For example, in exams or sports competitions, among others. All this makes them feel that they are deceiving others, that they are a fraud and do not deserve their success or the admiration of others.
Psychologist Patricia Nafría Vicente explains that the main fear suffered by patients with imposter syndrome is seeing themselves “discovered.” That is, the rest of the people realize that they are a “fraud” and not as good or skilled as they thought. And the main problem behind this is lack of self-esteem. A fairly common problem in children and adolescents with high abilities.
One of the aspects that usually alert parents that their children have imposter syndrome has to do with a very high level of self-demand and self-criticism, sometimes even being really cruel and unfair to themselves. This is directly influenced by low self-esteem and also not having self-confidence. This insecurity may be due to past events, for example, having received numerous criticisms, according to the psychologist.
They are not able to enjoy their achievements, they always believe that they could have done better and they feel guilty for feeling that they are deceiving those around them. By not feeling enough and suffering from the fear of being discovered in their “farce”, children end up becoming frustrated and can develop clinical symptoms of anxiety or even depression.
The role of parents will be to accompany their children in dealing with this imposter syndrome. In order to avoid this, it will be key to educate them in a positive and healthy way when it comes to valuing their achievements and successes, recognizing their role in them. However, when it is already present, qualities such as understanding, patience and empathy will be important. But it is also advisable, and in some cases essential, to have professional help from specialized psychologists.
