Elizabeth Clapés, popularly known on social networks as Esmipsicologa, is a psychologist specialized in the field of clinical sexology and couple relationships. Therefore, for some time now, she has dedicated herself through her social networks to disseminating her learnings about all types of emotional ties.
A topic I talked about at length a few months ago on the popular Better podcast, presented by young entrepreneurs Alex Boisset and Adrià Cruz. However, a small fragment in which the writer explained how to deal with a breakup became in recent hours one of the most talked about contents on social networks.
The psychologist, who currently has nearly a million followers on her Instagram profile and has a long list of written copies on the market, assured that the best way to get over a breakup was to maintain zero contact. ”When you leave someone you have to completely cut the link with that person and in the event that you have children, maintain what is strictly necessary for the benefit of that child, without using it as an excuse or bargaining chip,” he began by saying.
For this reason, Elisabeth Clapés explained that maintaining a minimum of contact with that person we want to forget was going to be counterproductive because “you were never going to finish letting go of that person.” ”It’s like trying to quit smoking by smoking one cigarette a day. You’re not going to quit the addiction. No addiction is left by consuming drugs,’ she asserted.
”If I am in contact with you and I have loved you and I love you, it will be very difficult for me to separate myself from you. Well, I can disassociate myself but it will take much longer and I will probably never fully achieve it. However, I do have zero contact and I stay there for a while until things cool down, which is what hurts, but in the end it is the best, because afterward there can still be friendly contact,” the psychologist concluded.