Nothing human is foreign to him.
I delve into the complexity of human nature, capable of torturing or creating vaccines.
What makes us unique?
The same thing that distinguishes us from artificial intelligence.
Namely.
That we are spiritual.
What is that about?
Before the campfire, the flow of water or the stars at night, you ask yourself questions.
And we invent answers.
Language and thought are one thing. That is why it is important to train children to express themselves well orally.
What else would you teach them?
That the most important thing is the “you”.
The other?
Why are you doing this interview with me?
For my readers to enjoy.
Sees it? She does it for a “you”. The psychologist or doctor does the same: they act for a “you”. The other matters, the you.
Tell it to someone with depression.
Often the depressed person is not aware of their depression. Only that everything seems ugly, bad, horrible, adverse, he feels that the world is against him…
Is feeling that an indication of depression?
He feels alone, very alone. And he may even attempt suicide. I’ll tell you one thing…
Say.
Helping another is the best way to help yourself.
Are there many depressed people around?
Spain is the country in the world that prescribes the most antidepressants, sleeping pills and anxiolytics.
What is happening to us?
That we ask too much of life. We want constant happiness! And, of course, any setback dismantles us.
Not you?
Me? It surprises and amazes me how well the world works!
Lucky you.
Look, without going any further: my wife and I have been together for 45 years!
And the secret is…
Let the air flow! And mutual trust. Oh, and there’s no need to tell everything.
¿No?
No, because you have the right to an intimate life.
Private life?
No, private life calls for the privacy of your data, and social life is what you display before the eyes of others.
Intimate life, what is it then?
What happened to the child I was? Do I regret anything? What happened between that cousin and me, or what do you think happened? What do I aspire to? What is it that I will never tell…?
Ah! All that… is it intimate life?
Yes. Your intimate life is what you don’t tell anyone… not even almost yourself.
Would you tell me something intimate here?
OK. In a psychotherapy workshop, covering my eyes, a hand caressed me. I felt like I was getting a little eroticized. When I uncovered myself, I saw that I had been touched by… a man. I got up and got out of there.
And I see that he still remembers that.
Yes, just like my oldest son tells me today that as a teenager I broke his ticket to a concert… I didn’t remember it, and yet it was shocking for him!
What would you prescribe for a child?
Ask yourself “what do I contribute?” Because we all have a vital purpose that goes beyond the money we earn.
Against academic failure, what would you advise schools, parents and teachers?
No cell phones inside the school. And memorize. And discipline, effort. And discerning the good from the bad: having a sense of guilt is very good, man.
What have you taught your children?
That you are born alone, you live alone and you die alone.
Well yes, well yes.
And that you must be independent.
Many people are not.
Psychological or physical abuse by another or others generates what we today call “learned helplessness.”
And you have to unlearn it, I understand.
To not be dependent on anything. Let’s learn to break with everything! You have to know how to break!
I wish no one would ever mistreat anyone.
We must educate ourselves and educate ourselves in empathy, in feeling what the other feels. The harasser is not aware of the damage caused.
Give me clues to cultivate empathy.
“I want to be your friend,” I say to people I know. And I cultivate that relationship, so I make new friends. I want to be your friend!
Me too from you: write down my phone number.
Made! Do you know what your greatest individual responsibility is?
Which one, dear friend?
The use of your time.
I will take time to call you.
Just imagine it, that’s fine, friend. The human being is all imagination.
