the World is tough, and your soul is full of wounds, so it is no wonder, if you don a cloak that protects you from the world’s abuses and rejections.
Unfortunately, this means the hardness is that you miss of the gold that is stored in the vulnerability, particularly of the sexual kind.
It takes a clinical psychologist and sex therapist Marianne Brando, who argue that true intimacy in a relationship cannot be achieved without a genuine vulnerability.
According to Brando’s sexual vulnerability is the key to great sex. When you are vulnerable, and your fortress is lowered, there is no longer any barriers between you and your elskovspartner.
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What is a vulnerability as in the context? Vulnerability is when you show your most authentic I, completely naked, unprotected. It creates the sensitive, unspeakable moments, where you are seen as the, you are and accepted for it.
When your inner, most intimate I omfavnes, it can be the most healing moments in your relationship.
But if you have the mon dared it ever been your most vulnerable self during sex?
Think back on your best sexoplevelser. Maybe it was in a situation where you did something unfamiliar, opened you in a way that seemed a little dangerous, and which gave a big rush.
You experienced a unique cohesion, because you allowed yourself to be naked and be seen in your most basic form, your vulnerable self. There was, in other words, the hole through.
Conversely, your least interesting sexoplevelser certainly been to the place where you saved you and your vulnerability away. The boring friktionssex, where nothing is at stake.
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Vulnerable sex is a dance. A dance, which alternately follows and leads each other. When you’re looking and directs the adult, follow your partner and the more vulnerable you become, the more leads your partner (however, there may also be vulnerability to manage). It, you take in the bed (control and vulnerability), has importance for how your partner responds to you, thinks Brandon.
But. According to Marylin Brandon can happen in a relationship, that the woman is experiencing, that she all the time has the management within and outside of the bed. And it turns her on.
Brandons female clients say things like: ‘I want that he for once takes the initiative.’ ‘His touch is so trying, hesitant. It turns me on!’
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These women can’t make themselves go and open up to sexual pleasure, if they feel that the man is castrated. They are not vulnerable, because they are in control instead. The control released only when she trusts that he can grab her.
Unfortunately stiffens the many conditions in the habits and patterns, where the vulnerability disappears. It requires conscious work to remain vulnerable in the bed. It requires openness and a willingness to create new experiences together.
But if she trust him in a relationship with mutual respect, the vulnerability can flourish and improve the sexual experiences.
How a man can take control sexually and thus giving the woman’s place to be vulnerable, you can read about here:
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