Red flag, what is that? In recent times it is common to come across this expression on social networks. It is a common term in millennial and generation Z slang, which comes to mean those negative behaviors that you should be aware of when you are meeting someone. In short, red flags are behaviors that can break the emotional balance of the members of the couple and that are decisive in the development of a relationship.
Relationships as a couple should be based on the constant negotiation of agreements and mutual respect. Lack of tolerance or fixed ideas can stop you when it comes to meeting another person. Unfortunately, many times it is the intolerant ones who establish their own red flags in reference to the imposition of arbitrary tastes and thoughts. This has caused the term to be used lightly to detect a multitude of conditions such as fears, insecurities or jealousy. But it is the true indicators of danger to our physical or mental health that should be labeled as red flags.
Everyone establishes biases when it comes to meeting someone. Nobody is perfect and it is almost impossible to like all the attitudes of a person at the beginning of a relationship. The different experiences and experiences that have marked a person create defense mechanisms that can put us at the worst in the face of an aspect that we consider negative and cause us to automatically label it as a red flag.
If there is a behavior of your partner that bothers you and has set off your inner alarm, the first thing you should do is have a conversation. Good communication is vital to laying the foundation for a healthy relationship. Only by explaining the reasons for your discomfort to another person, you will discover whether or not it is a real problem and you will be able to give them room to correct the attitudes that you do not like
The nuances are what will allow you to differentiate between harmless behavior and a true red flag. For example, that a person looks at the mobile while he is with you is not a red flag. Something that you should rethink your relationship with as a couple is that he will try to control each of your movements when you are not with him: “send me your locationâ€, “what are you doing online?†or make a video call when you have told them that you have a commitment.
There are a multitude of malicious behaviors that should not be justified, and that deserve to be highlighted as important compared to other trivial issues. That your partner physically or verbally abuses you on a daily basis, reacts impulsively to problems, lies to you or seeks to make you feel guilty for their actions, are the real red flags that you should pay attention to if you want to get out of an incipient toxic relationship .
