If they are forced to wait, if they receive a refusal or rejection, if something doesn’t go the way they want the first time. In all these cases, and many others, one of the most common reactions of children is that they scream, cry and display all their frustration in a tantrum. But being there and remedying it is precisely the function of mothers and fathers, that is, educating them to tolerate frustration and helping children to manage anger.
All children need to learn to be able to emotionally efficiently manage their frustration, a job that will require more effort in those with an especially low tolerance for it. However, during the early stages of childhood, it is natural for children to show self-centered behavior and lack patience, which prevents them from thinking about others and that things sometimes take time or cannot always be as one wants. . That rationalization is something you will have to acquire.
Children can become very picky with their demands. In addition, their wishes should always be satisfied as soon as possible and as they want, if not, this will lead to tantrums and crying. Above all, in those children who are not very tolerant of frustration, impulsive, unable to control their emotions and totally impatient. Their character makes them less flexible and adaptable than others, so they could be more prone to anxiety.
A stress intolerant child may resort to different strategies to express himself. One of them could be fleeing, that is, getting away directly from that situation. Others are resigned and suffer from negative thoughts. But there are those who could make use of other more serious measures such as physical or psychological violence.
Being able to tolerate frustration is a learning process that the child must undertake hand in hand with their tutors. The solution will never be to avoid these situations, because they are part of life and you must experience them to find out how to manage them and thus evolve. Parents can help them by establishing certain rules and limits that must be respected, it is important to explain it to them so that they understand it. Always firm, but calm.
Accepting denials and dealing with tantrums when they occur will be key for children. It is important that parents do not give in to tantrums, crying and anger so that minors learn to accept and manage their emotions, putting impulsiveness and impatience aside. The difference between wants and needs is something they must be made to understand.
