In these chaotic times, either we work on our own optimism or we go downhill without brakes.
Very graphic.
I have found in intelligent optimism a way to save my life.
What was he saved from?
From dark chaos
What’s that?
You get out of bed in the morning and you don’t feel like living, and often the people around you don’t even know it.
How to get out?
Focusing your mind where you want to go. Taking the reins of your physical and mental health, because others are not going to save you, they cannot, it is up to you.
What do you propose?
I like paper and pen. I dedicate half an hour every day to writing down my emotions, it is the first step: seeing it in writing.
And if you don’t know where you want to go?
It’s okay, live in the present: it’s much richer, but don’t stop writing, it will make you aware of what you need. We have physical, mental and spiritual needs, and it seems that some of them are not being met; solve it, slowly but surely.
Write down what works and what doesn’t?
Yes. It allows you to set a short-term goal, something you feel capable of at that moment. And I work a lot on the acceptance of loss, of whatever kind. You have to be able to feel peace in uncertainty.
There is what there is.
Many people suffer because their illusion vanishes. You have to accept the endings and thank them, every gift has a beginning and an end.
good focus.
This way of thinking can help us a lot to alleviate the psychological suffering that is added suffering.
Where do you put the focus?
What seems most important to me is that we are aware that each person has a purpose.
Eight billion purposes?
We all love to be useful to others in different ways and I believe that it is life itself that chooses your purpose, but you can help.
What have you learned?
That each person has to save themselves, that the only certain thing is that nothing is certain, I learned that in one morning.
Those days that change your life?
I got up and went to the faculty; When I returned at noon, I found my entire family crying because my brother made himself some coffee, went to his room, and took his own life.
I’m so sorry, how hard.
Rafa was older than me, I shared a room with him since I was born, with no one in my life have I spent more time. He had psychological problems, like many of the people who write to me. I learned that we are here today and not tomorrow, that is said a lot.
Yes, and it just didn’t sink in.
I have it integrated into all my cells. I already had enough traumas, which with a lot of work I have managed to overcome and find a meaning, which is to help others.
What other traumas did he carry?
My homosexuality. It hurt me that at the age of 6 they told me that I couldn’t play with what I wanted to play, that they bullied me at school, that they forced me to be with girls, that until I was 32 I wasn’t with any boy.
How did you overcome all those traumas?
With psychological treatment and work. I took pencil and paper: “What do I want? What is my purpose? And think and search and write and study… But the work is constant, I have already accepted that I am going to have to work on myself until I leave this world.
We must have faith?
Of course, but faith can also be worked on, and sometimes it’s as simple as spending half an hour meditating, connecting with yourself and thus connecting with everything. And request. When I didn’t know, I was heading to the universe.
His book The power of trusting you crossed borders.
I had found my way to help. It was an extraordinary apprenticeship, I didn’t trust myself before, I would have traded for anyone, but I learned.
To walk on the sidewalk of the sun?
We all have arguments to get depressed. And the affirmations thing revolutionized me, it only depended on me: I wrote one that gave me energy and I repeated it to myself all day.
AND?
If you repeat several times “I feel calm and relaxed and I accept what happens”, you are training your brain.
He proposes that love yourself.
Look how manic! But I propose exercises: write down what gives you energy and what takes it away; be aware and accept your mistakes, and make peace with the past. Those moments of silence to reconnect with me are essential. And don’t be distressed by the “I don’t know”, in the long run it is comforting.