It is possible that those behaviors of your child that parents often attribute to a reserved personality are actually due to a lack of self-confidence. Parents have to accompany children in their development and learning process, which also implies helping them increase their autonomy. And the self-confidence they possess has a lot to do with this. The first step in helping an insecure child is to identify this behavior.
“An almost constant fear” that limits them when they play, makes it difficult for them to interact with other children and even affects their academic performance. This is how psychologist Ángel Rull defines insecurity in children. The reasons why this happens are very diverse, he adds, since they can be due to a natural tendency of his personality as well as to an accumulation of lived experiences. The role of parents will be to notice this and act accordingly.
Each child has a different character and presents a series of different behaviors. However, children who are insecure share some or most of these traits, which give them away when it comes to identifying if they feel insecure. These will appear in a marked way and will be repeated in different contexts, explains the psychologist.
The support of the parents will be key so that the insecure child can overcome that lack of confidence that limits him in his day to day. Ángel Rull recommends facing the situation with patience and respect, since it will be a progressive process and in which empathy must be offered to the minor. It is important that he does not feel judged for his behavior.
