As mothers and fathers, there are some difficult conversations to address due to their importance and delicacy. This is the case, for example, of knowing what your children want to do when they finish their compulsory studies. Or how to manage a bullying problem.
It is also important to know how to talk to your children about sexuality, as well as other issues such as your daughters’ first menstruation, or that first visit to the gynecologist. Returning to the sexual education of children, a common mistake in parenting is to believe that talking openly about it at home will promote the promiscuity of children, but nothing could be further from the truth.
According to Dr. Carmen L.S., doctor in pedagogy and family counselor, it has been proven that those young people and adolescents who have received an adequate education delay the age of their first sexual contact. She states this in a video shared on her Instagram profile (@carmenhijosconexito, where she has more than 42 thousand followers). Furthermore, when the time comes for that first sexual contact, the expert assures that they do it “with greater safety and with much more respect and pleasure for both people.” Considering this, the sexual education of children is an aspect to which we should give due importance.
The pedagogue notes that the ideal is to start the sexual education of children in early childhood. But, if that has not been the case, “it is never too late.” In this regard, she advises “maintaining clear, transparent, honest and as natural communication with them as possible, without getting carried away by myths and taboos.” Likewise, it is essential to listen to them actively, to know “how they breathe, what they need, what they want, what they don’t know,” she explains.
Carmen highlights that “ignorance and ignorance too often lead some adolescents to make bad decisions.” Therefore, she appeals to always answer her questions. “If your five-year-old girl asks you ‘where do children come from’ or ‘how did the little brother get into your belly’, you have to explain it to her in a way that is appropriate to her age or her intellectual capacity,” she points out.
On the other hand, he emphasizes that “if you verify that your 15-year-old son is abducted by these dangerous movies and engages in risky behavior with girls, you must address the issue seriously and rigorously.” He also insists on the importance of being clear about possible negative consequences, such as unwanted pregnancies or sexually transmitted diseases.
Finally, he emphasizes that “they have to learn to say no and accept no for an answer, they must be educated in equality and respect for their partners.” “You have to make them see that when you say no, it means no, and you have to respect that,” she concludes.
