Feelings such as attraction or desire develop naturally between people and are the spark for the creation of a deeper emotional bond, which is considered a relationship. However, to achieve this connection you have to work on it. The communication of the couple is the key to achieve this, since it is through it that the pillars that will sustain the relationship will be built. And one of the most important tools with which this is achieved is through self-disclosure.
Self-disclosure is defined as a person’s initiative and openness in disclosing personal information to others. It consists of deep conversations that allow a connection and intimacy to be established, which will be essential to create the feeling of belonging and reciprocity on which a couple is based.
When a person shares aspects of himself with another, that is, he makes use of self-disclosure, it is when they really begin to know each other and create a bond of intimacy. An example is when talking about work or school life and family and friends. Taking into account what that person dedicates his day to day, what are the most positive and negative aspects of his work or studies and the type of relationship he has with respect to his close people, one will be able to understand much better behaviors and traits of the person. personality of that person.
Self-disclosure is also essential to learn about someone’s attitudes and opinions, especially on relevant issues and where there could be strong disagreements, such as politics or religion. Another fundamental way to become intimate with someone is knowing what their interests are, what motivates that person, what makes them happy or what makes them upset. The type of movies she prefers, the food she enjoys the most or her favorite hobbies, all this not only gives information about someone, but also generates feelings of greater closeness and empathy.
At the beginning of a relationship, people tend to measure the information they share, since they usually proceed with caution, after all, the other party is still a stranger. However, as communication improves and increases, more and more data is exchanged and progress is being made in how intimate it is. This is how the intimacy a couple needs to strengthen their bond, understand each other better and prosper is built.
For this to happen, self-disclosure must always be reciprocal. But it must also be taken into account that each person does it at a different pace, there are those who are more open and prone to share this information and others who need more time and understanding.